Youíve arrived at this site in
search of answers, advice, and direction regarding either your own
custody contention or that of a friend or relative.
Iím glad that you found us, but
sad that you or someone you care about is going through this
difficult situation. Glad because now a complete collection of the
most helpful and comprehensive resources is at your fingertips. Sad
because no other life event can turn people inside out quite like an
entrenched custody battle.
The heavy casualties are
emotionally, physically, and financially draining. These conflicts
often bring out the worst in people. Cinderella becomes the Wicked
Witch and Prince Charming turns into Attila the Hun. The children
are not enlisted recruits; but, instead, confused refugees who watch
as their two beloved parental figures cross swords.
I am a custodial father who
endured a prolonged campaign. Horrible legal advice and strong
gender bias plagued my initial effort in 1993. I made many of the
mistakes common to parents in these situations and paid dearly.
Later, as our case progressed, I was fortunate enough to discover
the manual entitled ĎWin Your Child Custody Warí. These pearls of
wisdom are a treasure trove of the information, advice, and warnings
that everyone engaged in this war needs. I only wish I had found
this gem when the battle began! The result of this discovery was
winning custody of our then 10-year-old son in 2000.
This resource is bulging with
common sense strategy. From the preferable negotiated settlement to
the Desert Storm attack, a wealth of useful tips is readily
available for you to implement immediately. In the appendices are
your sources for an abundance of intelligence: summaries of the
custody laws in all fifty states, a tutorial on how to read legal
documents, and the names and addresses of places to find help in
A custody war veteran, Charlotte
Hardwick, compiled this manual. Her brilliant work definitely made
the difference in my case and it can in yours as well. In the
following pages Iíll tell you about the creative ideas that were
part of my plan, and how I maintained my relationship with Steven
from 1,100 miles away.
Pray for peace, but if you are drawn into war,
make no mistake about it, you need this book!